Do you know the 3 biggest communicating barriers that block more married and unmarried couples from overcoming conflict? Whether you are a married or unmarried couple who want to know about these barriers and want to overcome them, then read this immediately.
Barrier #1: experiencing partner as the enemy, leading to the battle to be right and win
This is a barrier because when one partner perceives the other as an enemy, the first impulse is to defend. What is the defense? It is one partner jockeying to be right and proving the other as wrong.
This is a barrier because focusing on winning the battle stops each partner from seeing the possibilities available end the war and restoring the feeling of a loving connection that has been ruptured.
Couples can get around this by discovering the bigger picture: if any partner wins, both partners lose and the relationship loses. If one partner has already been stopped in their tracks by experiencing the other as the enemy leading to communication breakdown, then this is how you get started again…
Take a moment to focus out how the relationship can win.
Barrier #2: getting stuck in a vicious cycle of finger pointing and defensiveness
This is a barrier because when one partner is pointing one finger at the other, they have three fingers pointing back at them.
Getting stuck in a vicious cycle of finger pointing and defensiveness can stop couples because they tend to get stuck on the surface of pointing out what is wrong, versus exploring what can be right to overcome the conflict.
Couples can get around this by each partner going within to discover what is really going on beneath that surface that can benefit them personally as well as the relationship.
Any couple who has already been stopped by getting stuck in a vicious cycle of finger pointing and defensiveness, can overcome this by discovering what is trying to be repaired and healed beneath the surface.
Barrier #3: built up resentment justifying negative knee-jerk reactions
This is a barrier because resentment simmering beneath the surface is toxic on so many levels: emotionally, physically, relationally, etc.
This is because built up resentment gets to a boiling point at some point. At a moment’s notice, an explosion can take place at the most inappropriate time. Words can be expressed and actions can be taken that can be so damaging to the point of no return.
The question for couples is “how do we bypass or get around this?
The answer is taking the first step. Take an adult “time out” and go within to figure out what is really happening from the inside out and CHANGE the MESSAGE.
This is a personal process for each partner to take individually and each partner figuring out what they can do to contribute to repairing and healing the upset in a way that restores a loving connection.
Now that you know the top 3 Communication Barriers married and unmarried couples face and how to bypass them, or how to build momentum again if you’ve already smashed into one of them), we’d like to invite you to cut to the front of the line to your (free) instant access to “Communication to Connect From the Inside Out”.
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